Rushing to everywhere...

Where is everyone rushing to? I ask myself this question so many times especially as I make my way into Cape Town. Like this morning, I was peacefully driving when another driver drove past me in the left lane and rudely crossed over right infront of me. We also get the typical impatient driver who changes lanes continuously from the left to the middle to the right and back again, it just makes me so dizzy at 07:30 in the morning.Why do these people find a need to be so impatient in peak hour traffic where ideally one can only move at 30km/h.

I am sure that this rush and impatient bahaviour was the reason for the accident scene at Panarama today, all I felt was sympathy for that person as paramedics surrounding him/her as they would be going nowhere slowly from that very moment on.

Rushing to everywhere automatically means that we are speeding and creating even a bigger danger for ourselves and others around us. Really it is called setting your alarm, getting an early start and moving on time - But guess what the whole world is always late and take their frustrations out on the folk who are early.

I am sure that if we stick to the basics, we would not have to rush but people are simply lazy and do not have any respect for time. It is so not worth it to rush, it makes me wonder what our lives have become as we are always chasing our tales.

Take it easy and remember that rushing to everywhere is not worth it as it contributes to accidents and people being impolite.

Everyday is a good day

The moment we start living in absolute peace, free of greed, aversion, delusion and accept things without grasping for more or turning away, we adapt the mental state known as Nirvana which means that heart-mind is at peace with what is.

Many of us do not realise that our words shape our feelings, this then has a direct affect on our actions and we can then question if everyday is a good day?
Everyday may not be perfect, filled with fun and excitement but it can be good and a day well utilised. We do not realise that we are to blame for our bad days as we allow people and insignificant things to get us down and spoil a beautiful day.

Make everyday a good day and enjoy life and all it has to offer. Change your attitude and approach to life - You will soon see that everyday can be a good day.

Surviving a break up

Many romantic relationships that start with joy, butterflies and excitement can also end in a painful break up. At some point or another most of us will experience the sorrow of a break up and feel the pain of a broken heart. But only time will heal and while dealing with things it is important to mourn the relationship and slowly work through the steps of mending your broken heart.

It is ok to be sad after a break up, as you are no longer with someone you deeply care for and moving forward without them. Your sadness only means that you enjoyed being with the person and miss them. Do not be afraid to cry, it is a healer and allows you to slowly release the sadness and hurt.

Figure out who are the people that will be supporting you through this hard time and reach out to them. It is important to talk to more than one person as your thoughts can drive you insane.

Remove reminders of the relationship but only when you are ready to do so, get a box and pack away pictures, gifts and reminders of the person and events relating to happy times with them. Now is probably a good time to remove that person as your wall paper and place their emails in another folder where they cannot be easily viewed. The point of packing away reminders is so that you may deal with what is happening in the present and deal with these reminders when you are in a better state of mind.

Remember that it is ok to be selfish and dealing with your own sorrow and dissapointment comes first before your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend.

Minimize your contact with your ex as the end result is to move on with your life, that is of cause if there is no chance of a reconciliation. You might be tempted to call but call a friend instead and tell them how you feel.

Socialize with single friends and go out and just have fun, friends in a relationship or married couples could be to much of a reminder and might make you feel depressed and sad instead of having fun.

Visit friends and family as you probably have not done that in a while, reconnect with them and spend time in a different environment, surrounded by different people.

Do not date immediately after a break up as you need to mourn the past relationship and move past the sorrow. The start of a new relationship while in this state of mind will only be a rebound relationship, is not wise and likely to be unsuccessful.

Finally, learn something from the relationship and think about what went wrong as well as your shortcomings and what you can do better in the future. It is important to learn from ones experiences as engaging in a romantic relationship is a huge emotional investment.

Break ups are really hard and painful but remember, you can overcome them.

Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses

Our strengths and our weaknesses are actually two sides of the same coin. If you look at them, you can see how they fit together and that our weaknesses are simply our strengths out of balance. All of us are born with certain characteristics and others develop over time as we grow older. These traits are not necessarily good or bad, it is what we do with them that make them good or not so good.

Take this for example you might be a creative person and enjoy creating new things but might also be messy and not put things back into there rightful places because you are to busy creating. It just goes to show that every strength has a weakness, they simply go hand in hand.

Every trait that you may have can become out of balance if used in the wrong way, most of us use our traits in different ways. Remember that you to portray your traits negatively at times but remember to reframe your positive and negative traits and turn your negative traits into positive ones. By doing this you are able to balance your life.

Remember your strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin...

Time Management

So we have reached the Btech year and one of the problems that we are sure to be faced with is time management. For most of us, we have to make time for our families, boyfriends, friends and of cause the huge amount of tech work that is sure to come our way over the next few weeks. Let us not fall into the same trap as last semester, stress, stress, and more stress, doing things last minute and not allowing our bodies sufficient sleep. For many of us last semester seemed like a nightmare that we simply could not awake from.

Here are some hints and tips for dealing better with your tech load this semester,
* Do not procrastinate, you are not doing yourself a favour but increasing your levels of stress and anxiety.

* Plan your daily tasks and stick to them

* Allow yourself me time and let your hair down but do not take more time that is really needed, this leads to laziness and eventually doing something else like playing XBox.

* Do a small amount of tech work everyday to decrease your workload,

Also remember to look after yourself by eating a balanced diet and exercising...
Lets get through these next few months and Get that Degree guys!

Try a Cliche

I woke up on Saturday morning ready to get dressed and go for a job and I discovered that it was "Raining cats and dogs", what a huge dissapointed as all my plans for the day was outside and of cause I had my first idols audition, "Break a leg" said my Dad as I rushed to get the perfect outfit, hair and makeup done and out the door.

What a disaster I realised that there were roadworks and traffic was not moving, eventually I got to the venue an hour late greeted by one of the judges who said, "Better late than never" I felt a sense of dispair come over me and all I wanted to do was curl up into a ball and cry, "There truly is no place like home" I sighed but tried my best to see the sunshine through the rain.

As I sat there, this young lad came up to me and said well you can't just give up "Are you a man or a mouse" my spirits were immediately lifted. I eventually went for the audition which was a huge success and I progressed to the next round.

So I thought to myself, "All's well ends well" and it surely did...