Why do women allow themselves to be controlled by men?

This issue sprang to mind a few days ago when I realised how many young women are being controlled in today's society. I find it so hard to digest that young women can allow their boyfriends to control and abuse them. Ladies don't you know that you can find so much better, remember that marrying that person will destroy you.

Many women long to be loved so badly that they would endure just about anything by that person. If he makes you feel guilty for small things?, and he knows exactly what to say to make you feel a certain way and makes you cry?....you are being controlled emotionally and you better wake up and send him packing.

Many boyfriends control their girlfriends because they can and it is allowed, only you can put a stop to it. Trying to make things work after it is visibly clear that the relationship is doomed is placing yourself in a position of more heatache and pain. As women we allow ourselves to be humiliated and treated as a floor rugs because we want to believe that the heartache is all in the name of love. After all love is pain right? Wrong...real love treats you like gold and you'll feel loved no matter how much you change, or weight you gain.

Women need to realise that being controlled is letting yourself go, you become who that person wants you to be as your actions and words would be done to please them. Do not allow a man to change you, and take the sparkle away that shines brightly in your eyes.

Women always remember you deserve better in life and you will receive better if you open your eyes and just "let it go" make peace, stand tall and become a strong, bold women.

Do not allow to be controlled and abused...Stop it today....

We are what we do

Indeed we are what we do and our actions and words give us a title in society. Someone who steals, is a thief, a women with a child is a mother,someone who speaks bad about others, a gossip or backstabber.

Society labels us for what we do and we will always be judged for not doing right by society. It is therefore so important to think before you act. What you do in life could have life long consequences and could have a negative affect on your future.

What you do is automatically a reflection of your personality, your level of education and possibly the situation that you find yourself in. It is highly unlikely that a person who steals is rich.

If we allow to be treated a certain way, that is who we will become, a helpless and voiceless person.

What you do, portrays what you want to people to see and you are telling the world "This is who I am"

So may your actions and words be positive.

3 words that describe me best

Assertive, Optimistic and Loyal

Procrastination, Good or Bad?

So you focused on completing everything, but actually end up completing nothing? You've got a presentation or assignment due tomorrow and you end up going to bed at
12 the next day. Sound familiar?

Procrastination got the best of you, but is it always bad? Many articles always focus on how to cure or avoid procrastination, but the real question is how can we procrastinate well? Procrastination can be divided into three different categories:
a)Doing nothing
b)Doing something less important
c)Doing something more important

I believe C is a good form of procrastination and means avoiding errands and small things in order to do real work. If you are ignoring things such as house work, laundry, writing out thank you notes or replying to unimportant emails to focus on an important task, then you are procrastinating well. Procrastination is a huge problem for many students and here I speak for myself, sometimes things become so much we end up doing nothing which later results in stress and feelings of anxiety.

So we ask ourselves, why did I do that? and why did'nt I plan? but yet we find ourselves in the same rut over and over again.

One of the best ways in which to deal with procrastination is to make a list of all the things that need your attention and categories them into:
a)Most Important - deadline over a few days
b)Important - deadline over a few weeks but requires you to become familiar with topic.
c) Unimportant - can be done whenever there is a free moment.

To me procrastination can be a good thing as it enables you to structure your life and tasks, it is however not possible for many individuals. Thus these individuals have to avoid procrastination completely and focus on getting as much done as possible within a certain time frame.

So remember it is not bad to procrastinate as long as you are productive and procrastinating well....

We are afraid of the wrong things

Are we really? With all the disasters happening around us, children going hungry, women being raped and children being abused.We often are afraid of the most trival things like what people will say if you wear the wrong dress or if you hairstyle is in fashion...Really who cares?

So many of us are afraid of dying and why? Truth is I think many of us know that we are living a life that is not pleasing to God and if we die, the doors of heaven will not be opened to us. So should we not be afraid of the life that we are living?

We are afraid of being unique and standing out from a crowd, so often we refuse to be bold because we are afraid of being judged, but what makes the person who is judging better then the person who is being judged? I say we all need to realise that everyone has faults, makes mistakes and is created magnificently in the eyes of God.

We are afraid of saying exactly what is on our minds, because we do not want to anger others and think about it, thats your voice...Let it be heard. We live in a society where people are way to sensitive and take offence for practically everything. How can we create change if we can't speak differently and have opinions that clash?

I think many of us can relate to the following...We are afraid of failure, how many times have you simply given up and placed negative thoughts in your mind before even trying. We really have to start altering our thoughts and words into thoughts and words of positivity.

You are able to do anything if you think success and perserverance.

We need to take charge of fear and realise that we should be fearing the dark, snakes, heights...the lists goes on, basically we need to stop fearing ourselves...

When I woke up this morning...

I realised that I am laying in the middle of a Queen size bed leaving my sister with a small space to sleep on and as I moved, her hand came over slapping me on the head. Wow so much for being considerate! I guess she was doing karate in her sleep. I woke up and realised that I have so much to be grateful for and that life is not as hard as it seems, tech is just a chapter in life and would pass in good time when another chapter started. What was the point of stressing and yelling yesterday and bursting out in anger? when it could have been resolved in a normal conversation. We really do cause our own stiff necks and aching muscles.

I woke up and heard the birds singing and thought to myself that so many mornings we wake up sad or moody and do not realise the huge differnce between our lives and that of birds and yet they are so happy and joyful.

I woke up and told myself that from today I would change my attitude towards everything and become more positive and enthusiastic about life. We say life is for the living, but how many of us actually do this and enjoy it. Our lives are so busy and rushed, have you stopped lately and just looked around, thought about where your life is heading? Where you want to be in 3 years time and how this will be achieved?

Well I woke up inspired this morning and with a song in my heart, my eyes opened and the sun was shining, I have a family who loves me unconditionally,a faithful God, a roof over my head, wonderful friends, a lovable boyfriend and the ability to learn and keep on going in order to reach my goals.

Always appreciate everything in your life and most importantly be thankful that you were able to wake up this morning...

Fish falling from the sky

Can you imagine "fish falling from the sky" I ask two questions, are the fish dead or alive? and where are they falling to? As dead fish could leave the entire city with an awful sting, many unhappy citizens as they would be surrounded with wet and slippery creatures and not to mention a shortage of fish and food in our oceans. I seem to ponder on somethings,where are these fish falling from? The sky...or magically absorbed by the clouds?

Fish falling from the sky although sounding odd and making you want to close you nose and mouth with a feeling of nausea, could also be something spectacular, imagine fish falling from the sky and into the ocean?

We would be looking at a diverse school of fish and types of fish, all uniquely made and gently dropping back into their habitats and living their fishy lives as normal. This would indeed be somthing spectacular to see.

An interesting fact though is that fish falling from the sky became a reality in Ethopia in 2000, when creatures such as fish and frogs were indeed falling from the sky. Although the theory has not yet been proved it is believed that in certain countries where tornadoes severe storms and water spouts occur, these creatures are often lifted from the water, sometimes carried for miles and then dropped over land.

Bizaar? Well I surely have a different view of "fish falling from the sky"

Is the grass greener on the other side?

So often we hear this saying, the grass is greener on the other side all you have to do is A, B and C. But do we really know what this means? and how do we know the grass is greener then here where we are standing at this present moment, and if the grass is greener on the other side, who is to say you even wanted grass in the first place?

Well it's one of those things in life, and we go through it taking risks and making decisions that could actually make the grass look dull and weak on the side or maybe even dying. It's amazing how we go through life always wanting what someone else has or thinking to yourself how happy someone else is, saying they've got a better life, a better partner or a better family.

Is the grass greener on the other side? Well it's simply what you make of it, how you choose to live your life, how happy you decide to feel when you awake in the mornings..the grass will be greener if you follow in life that which can make you successful and happy.

When you ask yourself is the grass greener on the other side? Maybe the more appropriate question would be what do I want in life? and how will I make this happen. Anything is possible.. Let the grass be green on your side..

What is the colour of the wind?

So I am standing in the surroundings of nature and looking left and right, feeling this rush of air blowing through my hair and gently touching my skin. It takes my breath away but yet calms my spirit...calming calming calming.

What colour is the wind? Is it yellow, pink, black or blue, when it's playing with my hair does he do the same to you? When the wind is dying down, does it have a lighter shade? Or does it remain the same through Summer, Winter, Autumn and Spring?

It is an amazing force of nature and it simply cannot be ignored. When I'm driving my Atos, the wind surely tries his luck, but I simply hold on to my steering wheel and say enough is enough.

If the wind had a colour I'm sure it would be blue as it brushes over my body like cold sea water in June. How amazing it would be to see the colour of the wind, can you imagine the burst of colours and scents. The colour of the wind is something mind boggling, interesting and natures way of looking after it's self.

The wind is simply one of the wonders of the Earth and feels like a free spirit blowing gently and other times strong. The wind is calming, calming, calming irrespect of its colour.